IMAGINE THIS: George and his wife Sarah work 9-5 jobs. Oneday they came back from work together and George went to refreshen up while Sarah fixed dinner, simultaneously answering questions from their daughter Doris and preventing their 3 sons from fighting. He walked to the living room to listen to news while he called out to Sarah to hurry up with his dinner.
Donkey years ago, men were the sole bread winners while the women were housewives and it was that way for a very long time.
In recent times, men are still bread winners but now have their wives supporting them financially so most women work and also earn a decent wage. Some women have become sole bread winners too. However I feel that if the woman is taking on more responsibilities then the man should do the same.
Instead they come home and sit like an entitled couch potato waiting and screaming for food. If you won’t help out in the kitchen and want to be a couch potato why not shut up and be a good couch potato?
It is scientifically proven that helping your spouse out every once in a while especially when you know she’s had a stressful day doesn’t reduce sperm count (you can quote me anywhere).
Patriarchy is still very much alive.
I remember less than 5years ago, I’d sit infront of my house in the village and see a family returning from farm. The woman usually carries a big basin of cassava, firewood on top of the cassava, ties a baby on her back and holds the other child by the hand. While the man just walks behind them with a cutlass and sometimes a radio as a proud owner of a penis. He doesn’t participate in cooking and may likely request for pounded yam when he gets home which he will not pound. As is custom, he will have dinner and go out to drink with his friends and come back home to copulate with his tired wife who has no right to say no to a penis owner who was kind enough to pay her dowry.
It is crazy that these things are seen as normal and men who would have helped their wives, do not do it in fear of being called “woman wrapper” or a “weakling” and some women ensure that their husbands do not help them out for fear of in-laws saying she has bewitched their son.
Gentlemen, giving a helping hand won’t hurt. Your love for your spouse should reflect not just in the other room but in the other rooms. It won’t make you less of a man to help out with chores just like it won’t make her less of a woman to support the family financially. The home will be a happier place when responsibilities are shared.
I’ll like to read your thoughts in the comment section😊.