A slay queen is simply put- a woman who has a healthy self esteem. The phrase “slay queen” in recent times has been used by females to describe differing levels of perfection…..you don’t agree? Chill…don’t get angry first!
Slay – this is mostly used when it comes to ladies fashion – not exclusively-to describe someone looking dapper. To say someone killed it…. pause!…. Emphasis on– not exclusively…...continue
Example: you totally slayed in those shoes.
Queen– A woman eminent in rank, power or attractions. A goddess or thing personified as female and having supremacy in a specified realm….. pause!….emphasis on specified…continue.
But the phrase “slay queen” has been used by petty little men and some women who can’t deal with women loving themselves to describe only women with bad characteristics or who they feel fall under this category in their slay queen meter.
It is very ironical as all the people i’ve observed with this idea are nigerians. Fellow nigerians who tag almost all funerals “exit of an icon” or “exit of a legend” when clearly the person was neither of these things.😏
Same nigeria where we have “legends are born in this month or that month”. When we all know it doesn’t change the fact that legends are born in November🙌…. (yes…I’m a November baby😎)
I see stuff like:
“if you marry a slay queen you have a wife that gives you strife. Marry a pray queen and you have a wife that gives you life -Real O’versabi (pseudo name)
The only special person in a slay queen’s life is herself. You don’t need someone who thinks she is too special for you -Real O’versabi
Wait o! …chill!….Before you “say ride on sir!” As all the dozens of people before you did.
Pause….ask yourself who made him an expert in detection of slay queens😏
Is there like a secret slay queen tracking/detection device that these people have?😞
Seriously, it is a sorry sight when a grown man who should be busy with things like fighting for world peace is busy detecting/and holding seminars on social media aimed at protecting people from slay queens with very trifle knowledge about it (okay…I’m expecting too much from him…I’ll rephrase)
When a grown man who should be busy with things like……😦….i don’t know what to say. But you get the point, yes?
A slay queen can also be a pray queen. And just because a truck load of people decide to call themselves slay queens doesn’t make it a bad thing….you got the message wrong😦
They want to be slay queens so bad they do everything for attention. A slay queen isn’t only the girl who can’t write correctly in english.
A slay queen isn’t only the girl who doesn’t know how to cook
A slay queen isn’t a bad thing just because some petty people say it is.
A slay queen prays too.
A slay queen may not know how to write correctly in english cus she isn’t educated, might not know how to cook for reasons you know nothing about but might just slay at every other thing.
It is very possible to slay in your dressing and not slay in your academics
Just as it is equally possible to slay in your academics,dressing and not slay in your prayer life.
I’ll I’m saying here is just because a girl always has her make up on fleek, with painted nails and posts no pictures of her books on social media doesnt mean she is “slay queen” according to your aberrant standard…
Social media is deceitful….you should listen to or read Chimamanda Adichie’s talk about the dangers of a single story here.
Calling someone a slay queen isn’t an insult- at least for people who bother to be properly informed about a trend instead of helping to pass on a societal aberration.
In the words of beyonce:
I see it, I want it.
I dream it, I work hard.
I grind till I own it.
cause I slay!